The Heart Never Lies

I was sitting with a good friend and fellow blogger yesterday, T. Adamson (DrT isms), just talking about life. I don’t even remember what we were talking about, but I do remember what I said that became a great conversation topic; the heart never lies. I could tell it wasn’t sitting with him well by the puzzled look that he expressed, so I decided to explain what I meant. I knew that it would probably end up being the topic of conversation on our blogs. I was right.

Let me explain what I mean by the “heart never lies” through a story. I was sitting with a young woman a few months ago when she confessed to having an emotional affair with a man at work; he was older and very well off financially. Her marriage was now going into its seventh year, and most of the spark had disappeared. I asked her what a typical day looked like, and she did her best to explain. “I work all day, then I come home to find my husband sitting on the couch, or upstairs on Facebook chatting with someone else. I am expected to cook dinner, clean up and help the kids do their homework. Don’t get me wrong I know he works hard, but there is just no emotional connection between us. This older gentlemen (will call him Sam) enjoys taking me to lunch and holding my hand. He sends me messages during the day telling me he is thinking of me. I get none of that from my husband.”

It was at this point I decided to try to help her understand what was going on, and I said to her “the heart never lies”. She quickly asked, “Then you don’t think this is wrong?” I think my answer caught her off guard. I told her that what the heart longed for was not wrong, but the fact she had allowed herself to substitute a counterfeit was definitely wrong. You see, the heart wants what the heart wants. It is the dwelling place of the Holy Spirit. God longs for emotional connection; it is impossible for us as Christians to think any differently, but our mind tricks us into believing that counterfeits are better, easier and more desirable. We take the very desires that God places into our hearts and we allow the connection between our heart and our mind to twist them into sadistic, self serving, narcissistic conquests trying to fulfill what is true desires. Everyone needs to be emotional connected to someone.

People are quick to point to the verse Mark 7:21-23 whenever I say this statement, “For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, 22 coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. 23 All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.” The Greek word for heart is Kardia; the physical heart of a man. The question you have to ask yourself is “Am I a Christian?” If the answer is yes then where does the Holy Spirit reside? Your heart! What it boils down to is what voice in your heart and mind do you listen too? Let your heart be taken over by the Spirit of God that already lives within you. You’re heart is good!

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